#1. ACCEPT THAT IT IS PRETTY NORMAL TO HAVE SEXUAL URGES
To control your sexual urges, you must first accept that there is
nothing wrong in wanting sex or thinking about it. It is a pretty normal
phase everyone goes through, unlike what we have been made to believe
by some societal factors like religion that sex is evil and having
sexual urges is a complete taboo. You have to know and accept that your
sexual desires are just one of those basic physical needs that seeks to
be fulfilled one way or the other and that we are wired to think about
sex. Once you have accepted this fact and you strongly wish to put it in
check, you can control it.
#2. KNOW WHAT TRIGGERS THOSE FEELINGS
In order to control your sexual desires, you must know what it is
that actually sets it off. For someone who is sexually starved, it is
easier to be drawn by sexual innuendoes and signs, making it tough to
control your urges but once you have identified those things that these
feelings, you mind will be alert enough to steer clear of them. Avoid
reading books with x-rated contents or watch pornographic movies or any
form of object that can stimulate your sexual urges.
#3. TRANSLATE YOUR SEXUAL URGES INTO CREATIVE OUTPUTS
To curb your sexual desires, you have to do more to think less.
Channel all those feelings into something that will keep your mind off
sex and then, get busy. You can read books, go out with friends, watch
movies, learn new things etc. Transfer your urges into something you
have always wanted to do. At the end of the day, you would have
successfully managed not to think about sex and you will also be
satisfied at the things you did. If one of those hobbies trigger a
sexual response in you and you are feeling aroused, do not masturbate.
Think of non-sexual images or take a long walk..
#4. TRANSFER YOUR ENERGY INTO EXERCISE
Engage your body in exercise that will keep you busy and keep you
from feeling frustrated from not having sex. You can jog in the morning,
swim or hit the gym. You can also try yoga and other exercise that will
help stimulate both mind and body.
#5. STAY AWAY FROM DRUGS AND ALCOHOL
Only few can drink heavily or do drugs without losing control of
themselves. Stay away from alcohol and drugs if they will cause you to
do something you will regret when you are sober. If you must drink,
drink with friends you can trust and you know will watch over you.
#6. PURSUE NON-SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS
In order to control your sexual urge, you should enter into a
relationship with no sex. If you wonder what you both will do without
the sex, there are countless things couples can do to bond like going on
a field trip together, taking up a joint hobby, learning new things
together. Far from what most people think, you can have a very
satisfying relationship without sex.
#7. TALK TO SOMEONE
If you feel like you can’t control it all by yourself, you can talk
to your doctor, pastor, parents, close relative or friends. Sometimes,
having someone to talk to about how you feel helps better than trying to
curb it all by yourself. Who knows, the person you want to meet may
have had difficulty curbing his own desires too. What then is better
than learning from someone’s experience. Don’t be shy or scared of being
#8. GET SPIRITUAL HELP
In getting spiritual help, it’s important to note that if you are
being taught that sex is bad and it wrong, you won’t have much comfort
there and it will only push you deeper into your urges. Get spiritual
help that engages your mind in spiritual activities that are far from
sex. Being around people pursuing the same goal as you, especially in
chastity can also be a strong supportive measure. That way you have
someone holding your hands all the way.
As you would handle the viruses on your system, so should you handle
the thoughts of sex, especially when you are trying so hard to be
chaste. Tackle your thoughts before it translates into an action you may