6 steps to help your woman have orgasms every time

For some women, orgasm is a myth as they believe they can never achieve that highest level of sexual enjoyment. Such women do not only see sex as a chore but they believe they were made that way and can never get to that point.
But contrary to this belief, every woman was made in a way that she would be able to enjoy sex and get to that Big ‘O’ but due to some drawbacks, ranging from background, early warnings, religion and some shock culture, they have not been able to enjoy what most women enjoy during sex.
Many men believe that one goal of lovemaking is to ‘give’ women earth-shattering orgasms. But orgasm is something no one ‘gives’. Orgasms are like laughter. Comedians might be funny, but they don’t ‘make’ us laugh. We release laughter from deep within ourselves when conditions feel right. Rather than ‘giving’ women orgasms, men should focus on what allows women to have them.
Men don’t ‘give’ them. Men create the context in which women can have them.
Follow these steps and learn how to help your woman get that earth shattering orgasm she has always longed for.

1. Don’t expect her to have orgasms during intercourse. What you see on television and pornographic movie where women always seem to have orgasms during intercourse, are just what they are: make belief that’s much more fantasy than reality.
In real sex, only about one-quarter of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse. The old in-and-out can be great fun, but it brings only a minority of women to orgasm. Three-quarters of women need direct stimulation of the clitoris.
The clitoris is the little nub of tissue that sits outside the vagina and a few inches above it beneath the upper junction of the vaginal lips. Even vigorous prolonged intercourse seldom provides enough clitoral stimulation for orgasm.
Most women really need clitoral caresses from a hand, tongue, or vibrator. Unless she specifically requests intense touch, caress her clitoris very gently. It contains as many touch-sensitive nerves as the head of the penis, but they’re packed into an organ only about one-tenth the size. As a result, even gentle caresses may feel too intense for many women. If she doesn’t enjoy direct clitoral touch, caress around her clitoris.

2. Touch her all over, not just those places. From the scalp to the soles of the feet, every square inch of the body is a sensual playground, but too many men focus on just a few corners and forget the rest. Touch her everywhere. All over. Every square inch.
Think of sex as whole-body massage that eventually includes the genitals. Whole-body massage produces deep relaxation, which helps women (and men) have orgasms. Massage her gently from head to toe. Try massage lotion; some non-genital spots that can feel surprisingly erotic include: the scalp, ears, face, neck, feet, and the backs of the knees.

3. Slow down. Extended sensual warm-up time helps women have orgasms. Compared with men, most women need considerably more time to warm up to genital play. Forget the wham-bam-thank-you-maam sex you see in porn. When making love, do everything at half speed. Sex therapists recommend at least 30 minutes of kissing, cuddling, and whole-body sensual caressing before reaching between her legs.

4. Use a lubricant. Wetter is better. In just seconds, lubricant makes women’s (and men’s) genitals more erotically sensitive, so it helps women have orgasms. In addition, for women experiencing post-menopausal vaginal dryness, sex may feel uncomfortable without a lubricant.
The most widely used lube is saliva. It’s wet, free, and always available, but saliva dries quickly and it’s not very slippery. Vegetable oil is another possibility, but it can be messy and stain linens. Try commercial lubricants. They’re safe, inexpensive, and slippery. If they dry out, they can be refreshed with a few drops of water, or just apply a bit more. But don’t squirt lubricants directly on women’s genitals. That can feel cold and jarring. Squeeze some into your hand, rub it with your fingers to warm it, then touch her. Lubricants are available at pharmacies, near the condoms.

5. Break out of routines. Ever notice how sex feels more arousing in hotels? That’s because hotel sex is non-routine. Biochemically, the brain chemical -neurotransmitter- dopamine, governs libido. As dopamine rises, so does arousal and likelihood of orgasm. What raises dopamine? Novelty. So try something different -anything, as long as it is different. Make love in a new location, in a different way, at a different time, or with a different ambiance, for example, candle light, music, and sex toys. Beforehand, try bathing or showering together, or treat yourselves to professional massages.

6. Take a vibrator to bed. Even if you do all of the above, some women still have trouble with orgasm, and need the intense stimulation only vibrators can provide. Today, one-third of Nigerian women own vibrators, but few couples include them in partner sex. Some men fear being ‘replaced’, and that is nonsense. Power tools don’t replace carpenters. They just get the job done more efficiently. Vibrators can’t kiss and cuddle, or make women laugh, or love them. They do just one thing, and some women need that one thing to have orgasms. Hold her close as you invite her to use the vibrator.
Just remember, you don’t ‘give’ her orgasms. In a loving relationship, the man’s job is to create an erotic context that’s comfortable, relaxed, and arousing enough so the woman can let herself go enough to climax.



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